Get Them To Say YES!

Getting a YES from someone can be hard sometimes. Most often it is the approach. Regardless, it begins with YOU. You need to be clear on what you want and then go from there. Here is one way to a YES answer:

1: What do you want? The most important first step is to determine about what your big ask is. If you are a salesman it is probably getting the client to purchase your product, if you are an employee it might be asking for a raise. If you are a roommate, you might want your other roommates to help clean up. Identify what you want.

 2: Then start small. Once you have identified what you want, work backwards, thinking of two to three smaller wants. If you are a salesman this can be getting someone on your email list. If you are an employee wanting a raise perhaps you want to ask for an extra benefit or a title change before a salary bump. If you are the roommate, maybe suggest help with the trash once a week or help with keeping the common room straightened up.

 3: Plan your first approach. Your first yes to a smaller item might be even more important than your yes to the large item. Plan your approach for your first yes as if it was just as important as your ultimate goal. Lay out all of the reasons your target should say yes to your first ask. Often times your target will be so overwhelmed by your preparation and energy for your easy ask, they will be much happier to say yes.

 4: Build Trust. Once your target has given you your first yes — don’t let them down! Make sure they are happy with your first promise. 

When To Be ...Not Sorry!

Stop apologizing for being who you are. Be YOU!! Find your strengths and get to know them so well that they are all you think of when you are in the interview or work social event. You may never be comfortable in certain settings, but you can learn to function well in them.  A small amount of discomfort and pain and "faking it" can go a long way. You are who you are, which means you are talented in a lot of areas and you can learn to extrovert yourself when needed.

I'm Not A Details Person!

Not everyone is a details person, or so many people think. Maybe you are in certain areas of your life and don't realize that you just haven't applied it in other areas. Or you are an ideas person, a creative person and you really aren't good with planning the details to execute something. 

So look at the big picture, and find a “details” person. Or find a person who can help you unlock the details person inside you. A Certified Life Coach (like myself, go to thesuperorganizer.com for details.) Between the two of you, you’ll see the overall journey, and the little steps to take to get there.

Luck of the Draw

I see other peoples lives, especially on social media sites like Facebook, Twitter and Instagram and I'll be in awe of what they do and see. I have a full life my self and sometimes have some amazing experiences but even I can feel a little inadequate in what I'm accomplishing. Do you ever feel that way?

Are other people are more lucky.? I say NO! Pure “luck” is a myth. If someone is “lucky” they are doing stuff behind the scenes you’re not seeing. Taking action and simply doing something instead of making excuses will do wonders for your “luck”. I believe opportunity is in EVERYTHING! 

I remind myself that I SHOULDN'T compare myself to others. That each of us have the power to create the lives we want. Is it easy? Not always. Can it take awhile to get there? Sometimes. Is it worth it? YES!!! I continue to stay on my path and make things happen. 

Fall Down, Get Up

Learning is hard.

Think about it, babies all learn the same way, trial and error. They try, fail, and try again until it becomes second nature. When they get to being toddlers and try walking, they fall and literally get back up. All of this can be applied to life as an adult and taking risks in love career, home or art. 

Babies don’t get the luxury of learning via audiobook, DVD, webinar, or classroom. What they do is watch others and try it themselves. And remember everybody learns differently. There are many techniques out there for ways to learn and retain information. Go at YOUR own pace. 

Stay open to learning and don't be afraid to fall. You can always get back up!

L is for Letting Go

The process of getting organized begins with the belief that you can get organized! Sometimes the hard part is believing you can do it. Fear and negativity can keep us from starting. I BELIEVE that we need to let go of thoughts like:

After I organize, its going to get messed up again.

I've tried to organize before, but I just can't do it.

I don't have time.

I can't find the time.

It's too much work.

I don't know where to start or what to do, so why bother.

Of course there are people out there like The Super Organizer that can help and show you how to get organized. But even before that can happen, its all starts with YOU. You have to get to the mindset that getting organized is worth it. Mind over matter. Once you believe, anything is possible!

10 Steps of a Successful Negotiation.

I'm sure there are more than what I'm listing but here are some steps for effectively negotiating a favorable deal or agreement:

1. Decide on your starting position and your "bottom line," or lowest point you will accept in the deal.
2. Consider the objectives and emotional motivation of the other party.
3. Plan your sequence of proposals and possible counter-proposals. Open at the most you can reasonably ask for as this gives you room to negotiate.
4. Prepare for the meeting by determining your own motives and objectives: Why are you negotiating? What do you expect to gain and why is it important to you? What do you think you will have to offer to achieve this?
5. Be prepared with information, facts, comparable prices or costs, etc. Avoid going into any negotiation and coming across as either uninformed or unreasonably aggressive.
6. If the other party makes the first offer or proposal, this can allow you to gauge your response and set the parameters of the negotiation to your advantage. Though some experts suggest that your proposal be the first one on the table, this tactic can allow the other party to open at a point that is more favorable to you than you may have anticipated.
7. Start by discussing a mutually agreed upon point of the negotiation — something both parties will readily say yes to.
8. When you propose a deal or an offer, phrase as "I will do _______ for you, and you will do ________ for me." This establishes a position of confidence and authority.
9. Make your arguments and proposals incrementally and strategically. Avoid going immediately to your lowest point of acceptance, or bottom-line.
10. Know when it is time to close or break off discussion. If the other party is ready to close the deal, and it is acceptable to you, make it easy for them to do as little as possible by having everything ready to sign, etc.